Flawless Flak – Episode 2: The Pebble Awakens

“Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without” – Confucius (孔子, Kǒngzǐ)

…I have not quite finished writing the last article yet. Oddly, I find myself in need to regurgitate more. Not doing any justice to the pebble, I am compelled to give a more balanced view between the diamond, and pebble as neither can deny the other. What can I say, Confucius had more in mind than it seemed. The single keyword in his short phrase is “flaw” which subsequently differentiates the ordinary from the extraordinary by which points the way to guide mankind to better prepare them self. To state “flaw”, is to recognise that everyone has one. To know it, is the awareness playing. To recognise flaw, and the desire to make amend is proof to the requisite of awareness as a gift to mankind.

Awareness by itself is not enough if there is anything to gain from. You need to exploit awareness by coupling with the desire, and action to effect change. The change will expose the flaw to see the ‘diamond’ in you. Or, would you rather choose to turn a blind eye, and not act, and remain ordinary like a ‘pebble’ amongst the infinitely many? To be aware of flaw is the first step in realizing that your worth is more than the ordinary, and that stupidity of the pebble is your motivator.

If you believe fundamentally that we are an entity of two (2) halves (ie. spirit, and physical), then it can only be true that destiny cannot be fulfilled by spiritual will alone. The physical part of you must act on the will to effect the change intended. “It takes two to tango”, taking awareness by the hand, and dance to the tune of your desire to realise it. No action means no life experience. No experience means no relationship with existence. No relationship means no life story. No story means no validation of your existence. Thus, like a pebble lying on the bottom of the river bed amongst the infinitely many with no future, no destiny.

Neale Donald Walsch said in his recent tweet, “You will return to Heaven whether you have loved God in the right way or not. There is no place else to go”. And I tweeted, “We better not return empty handed”.

Character flaws are deceptions. They are not the primary target to the cause of our “crusade”. Deceptions are undefeatable as they will survive under the perpetual protection of pride. Pride is the main target, and enemy within that we must defeat. Confucius saw that by mentioning the flawless pebble which makes the reference to man who sees himself too perfect to realise that he is only a “pebble”. Blinded by the shroud of pride. Infact, the pebble, and diamond are the same entity wherein the quality they each hold is separated only by ego.

The diamond is the wake of a convergence that unveils the expanse of awareness when existence looks back upon you as you are doing the same to have a better view of it from lowering the pride window. How little Confucius had say about something that has so much lingering meaning. He must have woken up from an epiphany. Yet, not devoid from a subtle conundrum hidden between the words is the inevitable role of pride. The unsaid is for man to contemplate in his search for answers. After two (2) long, and a rather exhausting write-up, I’ve come to this;

“Do the bidding of your spirit without pride protecting the deception of your flaw”

“Don’t allow emotion to stray. Nurture it with love to prevent build up, and invasion of character flaw. Without flaw to deceive you, cyclical mistakes will end, and heaven’s gate will open unto you”

“The distance between you, and God is a separation measured only by ego”

Flawless Flak

“Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without” – Confucius (孔子, Kǒngzǐ)

Knowing a character flaw is in realising the afflictive nature thus causing us to hobble our way with the pain to progress. The emotional injury slows the process of a healthy engagement with existence in which we naturally desire. Indicative to the fact by acknowledging a trait that is flawed is a positive response to move closer to finding a way that will take us forward to embracing our existence with opened arms.

Equally important is that we stay consistent with our character, and remain true to ourselves. We can’t make the changes we desire to ourselves when we are not ready for it. When we are not prepared, and be ready for change, we are bound to face a head wind of resistance. In contradicting self is a form of deception which deceives not only ourselves, but others as well. Standing by who we are not, makes us a selfish hypocrite. Isn’t it better to freely coexist with the worthy flaw, rather to hide it as a lie to be unworthy instead? Flaw is a package deal. With, or without it is a matter of acceptance that makes it unique. After all, who can claim perfection, and free of any wrong doings.

The approach by teaching alone to alter a character habit is unlikely to be effective. “Brain washing” invites doubt. Like all organic forms, sustainable transformation is a process which involves nurturing. It needs the stewardship of meticulous guidance to sow the desired values into the mind. Like students need a guru, and children need parents. A positive transformation takes place with voluntary exchanges where understanding meets acceptance through witnessing the revelation in life’s events. We often asked about the purpose of life. Well, there it is. To seek the revelation, to raise awareness, to draw closer to oneness.

Today, we bear witness to the pillar of integrity of the Catholic Church shaken by sex scandals involving nuns, alter boys and paedophilic cardinals. I hope it stops there. Trouble was coming when scandals of children sexually abused by parishioners appeared on the news. Double trouble arrived when the Vatican knew, but covered them up. Realising the cover up is an act of transgression as well as an unfolding revelation, the Church finds itself reaching out for wisdom in the Lord’s prayer.

Despite the self inflicted predicament, and mounting pressure from the media in spreading the ‘dark’ unspoken secrets within the walls of the Vatican, the Church will survive the tumult. Trust will be restored, as well as the integrity that was once the institution’s center of excellence. Through the stewardship, the pontiff is mending the past errors. Standing by his loyalty to all Christians providing security, and confidence is the quality of stewardship. Unlike leadership which emphasizes rigidly on image. As the Church opens up to reveal their “perfect imperfection” (even John wrote a love song to appreciate life flaws), it will be mending their ways to draw the institution closer to the devotion that was once noble. Lest forget, the virtue of the Catholic Church cradles in the effort of an emperor uniting his people without a bible in hand, but by capturing the spirit in the stewardship of Christ. Unity is the acceptance of differences inspired by the pervading spirit to return into the common fold.

Fundamentally, lies keep people apart, and truth will bring them closer. Lies are toxic particularly when there is an engagement to deceive. To avoid exposure of the poison, do not engage others into the deception. Secrets kept in relationships have insidious feature. Keeping them by choice is meant to betray the engagement of trust to cause hurt. However, a secret without the engagement is not a lie simply because there is no invitation to participate. Therefore, it’s not a deception. This secret is classified as, “NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS”. But, I am afraid there is no exemption of “NYOB” for the Catholic Church, because as we are aware Christians are devotees in common to the church’s cause. Hence, there is confirmation of engagement, and deception is at play.

Undeniably, the Catholic Church is a force with great influence. Establishing parishes across the globe in the movement to bring all peoples to unite in one belief. And in each parish designates a priest to deliver the traits of stewardship that the Church has in mind. In my reckoning, the outcome in exhibiting stewardship has been a poor success. The Vatican should address its subjects in all its churches to emphasize more on the man in the robe, rather the man of it to realise more of God, and not the Church.

So, the journey of healing begins where the Church has placed itself in an unaccustomed position, yet not that unfamiliar only that the table has turned. The teacher is now the student. In realising the administrative flaw in covering up the shame will draw the Church towards humble acceptance in the principle to serve as a subject in God, and not to abuse God’s power by being the subject of it. And, for the many who remained steadfast to the faith, and covenant with the Church and despite the shambles, will be rewarded with the recognition of a diamond with a flaw.