Perhaps the greatest challenge in which life has to offer is – to recognise, accept and embrace our undesirable traits. These traits erupt from memory of experiences which shaped our individual characters that defined the unique role in which we play in these vast seas of human demographic. The process of recognition will first help to kick-in a conscientious effort to initiate all necessary steps for our minds to come to terms with changes that we evoke.
Rather than engaging in a struggle to totally rid of the undesirable traits in an abrupt way, instead we constantly change directions. We make small manoeuvres in changing directions but still maintaining our sights on the goal. Like dancing to the waltz, swaying and turning but we remain ‘present’ in the room. To remain rooted to the present is key in dissuading the mind from embarking in the process of imagination. Everything we do must stay relevant and real. The solution to this approach will reveal a gradual dissolution of our undesirable traits and finally unfolding a sense of acceptance.
The simple reason to why we take such subtle approach is because we are biological. The general accepted understanding about the mind is believed to be centred on the brain. However, now modern science is beginning to recognise that the mind is just more than the brain. For instance, the automated and correlated responses by our body’s auto-immune system in producing the antibodies needed in its defence to the invasion of various antigens in which the prescription of the antidote is so precise that scientists now realised that every cell in our body must contain some form of memory, thus conscience. So, it is said that each cell of the trillion of cells in our body has a conscience because when a purpose is fulfilled by a decisive action based on experience or memory deduces its presence. In similar fashion as our blood sugar level changes, specialised cells in the pancreas will secrete hormones to help recalibrate the sugar level.
There is no logical explanation to such an apt and organised ‘military-like’ display that is even thought of as pretentious pronouncing that they’ve “been there and done that”. Whether the conscience is singular or a collective of consciousness is not known as consciousness is inconceivable by the mind. Thence, the mind is not only in the brain, it is the embodiment of the entire circuitry system of our body connected by a comprehensive web of network.
Coming back to the subject of personal development – Altering the path of our undesirable traits require engagement in the process of changing our state of mind by welcoming our problems into a relationship. However, what most of us would choose to apply is rejection. This approach can build up an internal resistance which actually reinforces our emotional statement that there is something to dislike about ourselves. Rejection disrupts the natural state of inertia of our mind giving rise to emotional resistance. So, it becomes a vicious cycle of many struggles causing personal development to spiral downwards resulting in dejection and despair.
Hence, it’s self-defeating to denounce any part of us as memories are not meant to be erased, but to be embraced. Undesirable traits are expressions of memories embedded in the ‘mind’. Expressions of these traits derived from past experiences and the process is dynamic as if consciousness has momentum. Here, lies our realm where we can relate and grow in continuous motion. In short, we must learn to form a relationship with our problems rather than snubbing them.
Personal development by adopting the approach of subtle bonding with our personalities differ from one individual to another. Some would experience a complete transformation when old traits are totally disregarded and some would only experience partial transformation when old traits revisit their ‘minds’. Above all this and more importantly, we evolve to a higher sense of ourselves.
- 21 Traits of an Awakening Soul (wakingtimes.com)